I am forever learning lessons throughout my life, life is full of lessons that sometimes you need to work through and get to the other side, sometimes stronger than you originally started. The lesson I learnt took a while to get through and sometimes I am still learning but I feel that it was one of the hardest lessons I have learnt.
One Hard Lesson
One lesson that I learnt the hard way was probably trusting people again, when I went through my divorce and the stresses that came from a custody battle I stopped trusting people, I removed friends from my life who had any connection with the person who would use everything and anything against me, If i bought myself new (cheap) makeup to make myself feel better or enjoyed a drink with a friend, everything was reported back and judged.
It took me a very long time to truly open up to people and even still to this day I have had people break my trust and report back infomation about me back, I have a very small circle of friends and only really trust my partner and parents, but that has taken growth and lessons being learnt to get to that point and I will put up walls when needed to protect my mental health.
My hardest lesson is learning how to be selective with what I share with people, if I feel they had any connection I will cut ties and refuse to trust them, I did it recently with someone I knew who just enjoyed gossiping.. at least if I know i want a rumour spread I could go to them ha..
Yes it is hard, and I have had to learn it the hard way by having people I thought were my friends report information, share screenshots of things I have said in confidence believing this person was only trying to support and help me to then find out via an email that none of that mattered and swiftly removed from the group chats I was in and blocked on all social medias.
I feel bad for people around me but I also feel so grateful of those who remained my friend and are so loyal and are happy to listen to my little moans without being snide and sharing info back like a spy.
One hard lesson…. learnt..
Sarah
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